Whole30 – Week 4 – It’s a Wrap Folks!

Welp the Whole30 is OFFICIALLY over today!!! If we’re being completely honest, the Whole30 was over a week and a half ago. (yikers! oops!!).

Yep – we failed. I FAILED – something I hardly EVER do. Something I normally CANNOT allow myself to do internally…. annnnnnnndd this time, I am kind of OK with it. Honestly I just look at the whole thing as – it just wasn’t for us. Excuse? I hope not since I am taking complete fault and responsibility for quitting. In the short reality following all of the rules of the Whole30 is just not the way want to live our lives realistically. YES we like to eat and BE healthy – but we also truly believe that sometimes its OK to indulge –  to enjoy food (whatever it may be), and that’s ultimately how Jeremy and I want to experience life. SO – we quit.

I am sure there will be people out there who really think of us as “quitters” – a family who just couldn’t do it – a couple who couldn’t stick to a challenge for 30 days….Anyone can do anything for 30 days right? Honestly, I really believe we COULD have finished just fine, we just chose not too. If I really had wanted to complete the challenge, if I really had wanted to not cheat, I could have. I just didn’t want it that much.

We’re still starting this year off healthier and more fit than we’ve been in the past and we’re keeping up other ends of the bargain…. to me that with a little balance it’s perfectly fine. Nothing to beat myself up over.

A few weekends ago Jeremy had a wild craving for Pizza – a BIG Whole30 no-no. At first I said; no way, not giving in – not doing it. We had already cheated with wine the weekend before and had been back on the healthy eating train all week and I really didn’t want to mess it up AGAIN. THEN, 5 minutes later I was just like – you know, if we want Pizza – who is to say we can’t have pizza??? Yes we made the decision to take part in this challenge, yes I wanted to finish it out – but there was part of me that just didn’t want to do it more!! What if we could maintain our weight and fitness without a program telling us what to do?? WHY do we have to deprive ourselves if we simply don’t want too?

SO off the wagon we went again…. and once again, I do not regret it. While we still ate, and continue to eat Whole30 approved meals during the week and most of the time on the weekends, we indulged when we felt like it for the final week and a half and I am 100% OK with that.

All I really wanted to do was to start this year off on a healthy foot and I truly believe we STILL accomplished that.


In all honesty I LOVED eating by the rules of the Whole30…. I even plan to continue it as much as possible in the future. I love eating fresh produce and organic meats, I enjoy the prepping and cooking and I LOVE how it makes me feel. There are definitely things I will NEVER go back to eating on a regular basis. Mostly I love how I have really learned to stay away from processed foods and how we don’t plan on making them part of our weekly meal plans ever again. Every once in awhile? I am sure…. but not as a constant – definitely not as a go-to.


I said from the beginning I have NEVER been the type of person who will deprive myself of a certain food for ANY reason hence why I have never done anything like this before – the Whole30 apparently was no exception. I was more turned off by the fact that I COULDN’T have something if I wanted it more than anything else – not the actual missing out on it. I do realize that is part of the program – a MAJOR part of the program, learning to fight the urges and cravings – which is the entire point….. but I still personally just don’t find this completely healthy or balanced. I am not AT ALL saying this is the wrong way to go for some people – because I see the results and I understand the reasoning…. its just not the way I want to do it.

All in all I don’t consider the last 30 days a complete failure because we “didn’t finish”…. Here’s why:

5 things I have learned from the Whole30


1) How to cook with all fresh, organic, non-processed options – something I will definitely keep up!
2) How expensive it is to eat fresh, organic, non processed foods. We doubled our grocery budget during the last month – will def be doing some recon on that issue but I’d like to keep up with as much of it as we can for sure.
3) Coffee with Coconut Milk = not that bad. Will not be going back to artificial creamers.
4) It’s not always about the pounds you lose but the inches matter more! Progress is Progress!
5) I love eating like this and prepping for eating this way.

Three things I love about the Whole030

1) I have learned SO much about what I am putting into my body and what I WANT to put into my body. I learned to read ingredient lists and nutrition labels and what certain “code words” for additives mean. It’s actually quite fascinating and eye opening.
2)  The FOOD…. it really is so good. Getting creative with meal planning and going outside our comfort box was a lot of fun.
3) It made me push myself – I needed a push in the right direction and the Whole30 made me go that extra inch. Now if I feel like just grabbing something on the go while out running errands I know it’s better for me and will go the extra mile to just make something at home instead on MOST occasions.


Three things I don’t love about the Whole30

1) The Rules – I don’t like being told what to do…. this was no exception. Definitely a personal issue of my own. I am more of a “guideline” person.
2) The fact that I am considered a “quitter” because I didn’t follow said rules for the full 30 days – It  just doesn’t really gel with realistic lifestyle goals for us and motivation for after the challenge is over. “I quit so I ruined everything I worked for” – No – I don’t think that’s really true.
3) There are only 2 dislikes 😉

How we did. Time for our Check-In.

Jeremy lost 15 pounds!!! YAYYYYYYYY for him!!!! You can DEFINITELY tell and see it in his whole body even with the cheating factor (and he cheated more than I did). I am proud of him for doing something like this and sticking it out with me as long as I wanted to…. We chose to stop together but he wouldn’t have done so if I hadn’t. (He didn’t want to do his after measurements).

I on the other hand am teetering on either GAINING a pound or losing 5 – depends on the day. That’s where I stand at the moment – on any given day lately I fluctuate 6 pounds, which is more than usual. (Normal day to day fluctuation for me is about 3lbs).


Honestly I think I look the “best” in the middle picture which was half way through the challenge – day 13  – the majority of the bloat is gone in that picture and that is when I felt the best….. However, not much really changed in the following 2 weeks if you look at the numbers. (Side note: The last picture was taken at night, the other two were in the morning – not sure if that really makes a difference, but I think so).

I did lose 4 INCHES off my belly which I kept off!! I also lost an inch off my thigh, 2 off my chest, 1 off my bum and and a half an inch off my waist. Not too shabby.


My clothes pretty much still fit the same but I do have 4 bikini’s in a online cart ready to purchase as soon as I get the go ahead green light from the hubby! I am ON my WAY to wearing a 2 piece bathing suit once again!!

Here is the Official Motivation Photo!!


I am sure most will tell me that I probably could have and would have lost even more if I would have stuck to the program. I suppose that could be true (probably accurate lol)…. but who’s to say, right? Can’t go back now – only forward. I do agree that my bloat would be minimal had I stuck it out – that is for sure. You can definitely tell the difference with that when you eat “normally” again.

I still have a good amount of work to do and plan to keep updating with my progress towards my summer goals!!!

Working out and Staying Fit.

The Whole30 gave us the push towards the gym that we have been needing and waiting on for a LONG time. What we were waiting for I am not sure exactly but nonetheless…. it pushed us to really get back into the swing of things and we’ve been going full force since. We both have been maintaining 4-5 days in the gym per week for the past 4 weeks which is HUGE for us, so I am definitely pretty proud of that!! With Jeremy’s work schedule and the kids routine in the evenings it can get really hard to make the time (something we’ve put off easily with excuses for far too long) but we’ve finally put working out and putting our fitness first again – and it’s really paying off.

We definitely plan to keep up our gym routines and stay in the swing of things as much as we can – I still plan on being in that bikini come May so I don’t have a choice really – I still have a lot to do. I started a 5 week program doing X-Factor at the gym which is an instructor led class once a week with my sister in law and LOVE the extra push. That class is a whole new level of sore – working out muscles you never knew you had.

Honestly in my eyes nothing beats balancing healthy eating and working out.


Week Four Menu:

Our last week actually ON (or off whatever you wanna call it) the Whole30.


Friday: OFF the WAGON – Pizza and wine (WOOPS!! Sorry I am not sorry?)
Saturday: Seared Tuna soaked in Coconut Aminos andcoated in Sesame Seeds, steamed Mussels (in Ghee and spices) and a side of Bacon Balsamic Brussels Sprouts
Sunday: Beef Stew with Organic Beef stock, Carrots, Onion, Celery and Rosemary
Monday – Baked Seasoned Pork Chop with Zoodles (Zucchini and Squash)
Tuesday: Shrimp Salad (made with homemade mayo, onion and celery) and Tomato, Cucumber and Onion Salad.
Wednesday: Baked Lemon and Onion Salmon with a side of sauteed Zucchini and Onions.
Thursday: Italian Chicken Casserole – (at Kim and Brian’s casa)

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I honestly commend the people that stuck this out the entire time. It takes dedication, will power and sacrifice for sure. And I applaud those who keep it up even beyond the challenge. Its not easy at all. It’s actually really hard to stay on track and to make this a realistic part of your lifestyle when the world is throwing you everything it can to get in your way.

Going forward our Week 5 Menu really hasn’t deterred from the “rules of the Whole30” much but I do have 2 Birthday’s I will be celebrating out at restaurants this week, and I am glad I don’t feel like I have to miss out or not participate because I am doing the Whole30… Quite frankly the Whole30 was exactly that – 30 days – it was a challenge (that we lost)….which we never planned on continuing past – at least not as strictly. I have started up logging onto myfitnesspal.com again which is a calorie/exercise tracker that has always been helpful to keep me mindful and on track with my food decisions and intake. Contrary to the Whole30 – I do have pretty good will power when it comes to knowing what is enough so hopefully this will help me along my way.

Would I try this again? In short – possibly – never say never, but probably not. Do I think it works? FOR SURE – I saw weight and inches come off, not just in me but in others as well!! It’s just not the way I personally like it to happen. The program did improve our health, and the Whole30 really did change our lives – for the better…

While doing some research I found this link: Six Reasons Why the Whole30 Didn’t Work for You – I honestly believe I fall into the category of: Your Expectations Are Simply Too High. I feel like I had this huge expectation to drop a vast amount of weight and when it didn’t happen I gave up with the strictness of it all. Plain and simple. No Excuse.

As I said previously, I really don’t see myself as a “quitter”…. I see a person who gave this a shot and came out with more knowledge and experience than she had before. I see someone who is ready to continue creating a healthy lifestyle balance for herself and her family and who is ready to put in the work to get to her summer goals.

All in all it was not completely a wash!


December 31, 2014 – January 30, 2015


Whole30 – Week 3 – Yep, I Cheated.

There ya have it….. I fell off the wagon – I admit it, I did it – I cheated!! I didn’t care, I gave in and I ruined the entire Whole30!! Well, ruined may be too harsh of a word….  I guess that’s depending on who your talking to.


Saturday morning I committed a cardinal sin of the Whole30 – while I knew I was going to measure/weigh in at the half way point – I did it even earlier than planned – on day 13.  I was hoping to give myself a little motivation as we had plans to go out that night for a friends Birthday/Going Away party and I had PLANNED not to drink. AT all. I thought seeing positive results on the scale would inspire to stick with this and fight the wine craving. We can now say my plan backfired – miserably….

Frustrated, disappointed, agitated, sad, overwhelmed, and upset are all words that described how I felt at the moment I stepped on the scale and saw the reading. ONE POUND??? ONE flipping POUND??? You have got to be kidding me.

YES – there is a huge change to my body – but it wasn’t enough for me…. it just wasn’t good enough. Not to mention Jeremy has already dropped 8 pounds I was beyond frustrated at the entire process.


Now before everyone flies off the handle and tells me “its not about the weight or the number on the scale and that its more about the inches you lose” you have to understand something about me and HOW I typically lose weight.

I have ALWAYS been a fit person. Well, for the most part. As I have mentioned previously I was an athlete my entire life. Those who knew me  in high school would probably categorize me  as a “jock” I am sure. I played every sport you could think of from the time I was 5 until I was 22. I never had to work a day in my life to stay in shape or fit until I was well into my 20’s. Not only did I play – practice and train with my teams throughout the years  but I also ENJOYED (and still enjoy) working out on my own and I like to incorporate it as part of my everyday life.

Working out has always remained a priority to me. There have been times I have let it go to to the wayside and months where I quite frankly just didn’t care and did nothing in the way of exercise – but I always come back to it – I always bring it back.

Nutrition goes hand in hand with this for me. It’s something I enjoy, but not anything I obsess over – there is definitely a balance in my nutrition and workout routine. We typically eat healthy…. with a little “bad” mixed in and I tend to go to the gym or am doing something physical a few times a week. Ultimately when it comes to fitness or nutrition – fitness wins out in my book. I would MUCH rather work out then miss out on anything I may want to enjoy or taste. Basically if I want something I am going to eat it and I will be prepared to work it off if need be.

The year before we got married I weighed the most I have ever weighed in my entire LIFE. The day I stepped on that scale in 2008 was a turning point for me. I was officially disgusted with myself. It took me 10 months but between working out and eating “healthier” I managed to work off 37 pounds!!! Now I was the skinniest I had been in years. 8 months later we found out we were expecting Gavin – I was a decent weight when I got pregnant with him and just happened to be the exact same weight when I found out I was pregnant with Makenna – I decided that was my “maintainable” weight. Then came breastfeeding …. somehow I managed to get down even lower…. lower than I was on our wedding day. I was super psyched – but it just wasn’t a realistic number for me to maintain. Summer ended, the holidays came and went and now here we are.

As soon as we started the Whole30 back on January 5th – I have been BUSTING MY ASS at the gym. And when I say busting my ass – I mean this is the hardest I have worked out in YEARS. Really pushing myself, really pressing the limits of what my body can handle and testing my own endurance, strength and drive to make a change. Exhausting myself both mentally and physically.

I know what activities to do to lose weight and I know where to push myself to see results. Understandably its only been 13 days – but with the way I have been hitting the gym – I EXPECTED more than a pound to have shed. Its happened before when I WASN’T also part of a “healthy eating food program” so that combined with not really feeling like I have lost any weight this entire time hit me like a pile of bricks when I saw only ONE POUND was gone. I wanted to quit right there and be done with the entire thing. If I’d been able to lose weight in the past…. while maintaining my own personal meal plan – why was this not working??? What was I doing wrong? Something is not adding up.

1) Yes I am eating healthier – organically grown, fresher produce than ever before and no processed foods. Yes I am cooking ALL of our meals from scratch, prepping 10+ hours a week and making healthy choices 99% of the time. However, (b) I am also eating MORE…. WHAT? Whyyyyyy? I am eating snacks when I would never normally throughout the day. I am eating after 8 pm which I NEVER do and I am eating foods that are higher in fat more often than I would ever dream to in “real life” just because they are “whole30 approved”.

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It’s  just not making sense. While most everything with the Whole30 is good change, not all the changes are not necessarily for the better…. It’s the short reality of this for me.

I cut out all alcohol (which I joke about constantly) and quite frankly this was not that difficult to handle, but at that moment of the great scale debacle I wanted nothing other than a huge glass of WINE. Right then. I was over this program and I wanted a drink. Was all of this a tad dramatic? Yep, but that’s me sometimes. SO I had my tantrum, cried like a baby, talked to Jeremy and my sister in law and headed out for the gym. 2.5 hours later (45 minutes of cardio mixed in with some weights, ab work and other random aerobic activities) and a cute pair of Heather Grey booties (from my little Target stop) I was back on board and ready to tackle this head on once again. The wine craving was gone and I was ready to finish out the 30 days.

I lost 4 inches on my belly…. that in itself is a huge accomplishment – I needed to let go of the “weight” issue and just push through. On the way to the bar for the party that night I was still quite conflicted on what to do – to wine or not to wine. Did I really feel that 1 (or 3) glasses was going to make or break me? Nope. Did I feel like it was THAT big of a deal? No I didn’t. BUT I told Katie I wasn’t doing it. I was going to fight the urge and I wasn’t going to have a drink. I wanted to be a woman of my word and I wanted to finish the 30 days out strong. My decision was made!!! I could do it.

WELP….. that all went out the door the second we walked up to the bar. My will power was gone and I told Jeremy “screw it” lets just have a good time. SO we did and I don’t regret it for a second.


Balance – we ALL have to find a balance, what works for us and what is realistic for our lifestyle. Once this “challenge” is over – we’re going to have to eat in the real world again, with real foods and real temptations – restaurants and take out galore. We’re going to be indulging in adult beverages again and we’re going to incorporate some of our old habits back into our meal plans. Finding a way to make it all work together is not something I am against doing beginning now. SOME how I managed to be 5 pounds down the morning after that night at the bar…. and I doubt my 4 inches have been gained back – it’s got to be a balance. I COULD have stuck it out and continued on for the 30 days, I know I could have…. I chose not to. I made a deliberate choice to order the glass and I made a deliberate choice to drink it.

Sunday, today (day 14) we were back on track. Eating correctly and NO wine…. no desire for it really either. We’re going to finish out the next 16 days – following Whole30 rules and no getting on the scale.

I DON’T think I have ruined this entire thing by indulging for one night. I still think this can work and that I will see results at the end. I AM disappointed with myself for giving in…. I normally never “quit” or give into temptations like this so for me I definitely let myself down …. ONLY from that standpoint though – the giving in. I surprised a lot of people as well- those who know my will power and drive to do the things I say I am going to do were actually shocked I gave in. I am the last person they thought would fall short.  My best friend even made a BET with her husband saying I wouldn’t give in!!!

I still don’t regret my decision – if that makes ANY sense whatsoever. We had a good time and we added some balance and chill fun adult time to the last 2 weeks.

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Update and Plans for Week 3: I have a LOT less cravings for certain things then I did the first 2 weeks. I no longer feign for Coke-Zero and I “handled” my wine craving so I really have zero desire for that right now either. I am not craving bread anymore and I can do without the cheese. I honestly don’t even WANT any of these things at this point. For the coming week, I am planning to cut back on the high fatty foods and to eliminate “snacks” unless I feel like I REALLY need something. So basically no eating just cause I think I “should”.  We’re going to continue kicking ass at the gym and I have a bit of prep work to do tomorrow for the week ahead. I did our shopping on Friday and made a “to-die-for” homemade Tomato Soup. It was SO good. I am not discouraged from my little “set back” and I know we can get back on track with this thing!

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Week 3 Menu

Friday: Baked Tilapia with Sauteed Mushrooms and Spinach – Jeremy surprised me with Sea Scallops as well which we cooked in Ghee
Saturday: Lemon and Onion Baked Salmon with Bacon Balsamic and Garlic Brussels Sprouts.
Sunday: Baked Old Bay Wings and Asparagus Fries
Monday: Baked Herb encrusted Pork Chops with Zucchini and Squash Pasta
Wednesday: Salads with Grilled Chicken and Homemade Balsamic Dressing
Thursday: Steaks with Sweet Potato and Arugula Salad.

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This weeks recipe: Whole30 Tomato Soup.

I actually got this recipe from an Instagram post that popped up in my feed. I had made another batch of Chicken Salad this past weekend and I wanted something we could pop in the microwave to have with it. This was perfect but I was nervous as I’ve never made Tomato soup before.


What you need:

6 Tomatoes, quartered (I cut them a little more than quartered as my tomatoes were pretty large).
4-5 Cloves Garlic, diced
1 Yellow Onion, diced
Olive Oil
Salt and Pepper to taste
1 Cup Coconut Milk
2 cups Chicken Broth (I used homemade stock from the Chicken I cooked for my chicken salad but you can use Organic).
1 tbsp Basil
1.5 tbsp. Oregano
1 tsp. Garlic Powder
Fresh Basil for Topping


What to do:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees Ferignheight. Place sliced tomatoes, onions and garlic on a baking sheet. (I used Ghee to coat). Drizzle olive oil over top and season with Salt and Pepper generously. Roast for 45 minutes.

Put the tomatoes, onions and garlic in a stock pot. Add the chicken stock, coconut milk, oregano, basil and garlic powder. Bring to a boil then simmer on medium-medium low for about 20-25 minutes. Stir occasionally.

I used my regular food processor (the original recipe says to use an immersion blender – if I had one I would have used it for sure and will be purchasing one for future use) to blend the ingredients. I just poured my stock pot contents into the processor and mixed. It was pretty easy and it blended nicely. I added some salt and pepper to taste and then transferred to a storage container.

This is absolutely delicious!!!


We also used it as a “dip” for our Asparagus Fries this evening!!


Onto next week!!! I admit – I am a “quitter” – but I might just be a better, happier, more balanced Whole30-ier for it!! Have a great week all!!


The Whole30 and Toddlers…. and a Second Week Check-in.

I have gotten a lot of questions on how we’re doing this Whole30 thing with the kiddos. I am sure there are a lot of parents out there who can complete the Whole30 while also feeding their toddlers all the yummy fruits, veggies, and delicious poultry, seafood and beef creations they materialize day after day…. said no parent ever. (No really, I am sure SOME people make it happen – but not us crazy folk).

Toddlers don’t eat this stuff!!!!!!!!! Well, mine don’t at least!!!

WAIT!!! I take that back. I really believe Makenna would give pretty much everything we have made a whirl and a pretty decent effort if she didn’t insist on eating dinner at 4:30pm every.single.day. Occasionally we’re able to give her leftovers but it’s not as often as I would like as we normally take all the leftovers for lunch at work (Bad parents?? Ha – Maybe). However, my Gavin – doesn’t stand a chance with the Whole30 – it’s silly to even try. The child has a 5 item meal rotation – chicken nuggets, boxed pizza, fish sticks, PB&J, Granola Bar – and repeat. To boot, all of these items have to LOOK exactly the same each and every time we serve them to him or it’s a no go…. and I am not kidding – in any way shape or form. He only eats green beans out of a can and they are the ONLY veggie he will even come close to entertaining. He eats strawberries and bananas, grapes, apples and mandarin oranges and is a huge carb feign but – trying new things is not really up our Gavin’s alley. Pointless really.

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SO making the decision to do the Whole30 was easy for us so to speak when it came to possibly complicating life with toddlers…. We feed our kids separately every night as it is (not ideal, but reality)….. not much changed!!! Wasn’t an issue! Whew!!

OK moving on to Week 2!!! Week #1 went really well and we’re jumping head first into Week 2!!

Over last week I planned our menu for this week and it quickly evolved into an amazing variety of different meals I was really excited about.

The list however was a tad overwhelming – maybe even intimidating for me.


I went to my new favorite store: Wegmans – with my list handy and spent an HOUR and a HALF picking through the produce, meat section, grocery aisles and spice racks to gather everything we would need. I managed to find everything but ONE item and decided I could substitute instead. (Who manages to find Ras El Hanaut in the store anyhow?)


After my shopping trip we were ready!! This weeks menu was a little steep in price (I think Jeremy had a small heart attack when he saw the total bill) – but we needed to restock on a lot of the spices for certain recipes and also got totally new items we’ve never used or cooked with before. I honestly had a really good time looking for all the difference items and filling my cart. (I lead a wild life don’t I??? Don’t get too crazy now!!)



I spent all of Friday afternoon after work and evening  prepping for different dishes we could save and use through out the week. It was a ton of work and I was exhausted.


Week 2 Menu
Friday – Beef, Pork and Veal Bacon Burgers with Spicy Avacado and Cilantro Dipping Sauce. Side was a Tomato, Cucumber and Onion Salad with Garlic, Basil and  homemade Balsamic Dressing
Saturday: NY Strip Steaks with Sauteed Mushrooms and Onions (in Coconut Aminos) along with Sweet Potatoes and Steamed Broccoli
Sunday: Smoked Bacon Chili
Monday: Curry Chicken with Kale and Cauliflower
Tuesday:  Herb encrusted Pork Chops with Sauteed Broccoli and Tomato Cucumber Salad.
Wednesday: Steak Salads with Balsamic Dressing
Thursday: Chicken and Shrimp Stir Fry with a side of Zucchini and Squash Pasta


I also made Chicken salad – from a whole chicken I boiled and shredded. I used the homemade mayo we made and added celery, onions and a variety of spices.  (I made homemade chicken stock – killed two birds with one stone so to speak – that I plan on using for homemade chicken and vegetable soup in the coming weeks).

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I put together an Egg Salad that we ate for our breakfast with Smoked Salmon and Bacon…. DELISH!


I am finding that after just one week of planning, shopping and cooking this way – I am learning and growing in my knowledge of “good food” and what I am looking for and want to make. I am learning to actually read labels and I am understanding the actual ingredients and what we’re putting in our bodies and I am loving every second of it. It’s quite eye opening to say the least. I don’t think I will ever look at certain foods the same – something I never thought I would EVER care about. I am even starting to REALLY look at the labels of the food we feed to the kids and am looking into better/healthier options (as if that is an easy task).  I love seeing all the natural colors on our plates mostly and I really enjoy buying and eating organic and grass fed meats again! (Again – we’re living on the wild side over here!!)

Here are a couple of the delicious meals we made over the last couple of days.

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Last week my Kimmie showed me how to make the homemade mayo…. We used this recipe and its actually really very good. (Tastes alot like store bought if you ask me). I tried my own hand at this craft this  past weekend and wasn’t so successful the first time around. You REALLY have to follow the instructions and pour the Olive Oil EXTREMELY slow to get the right consistency. Otherwise you will end up with soupy, nasty curdled oil with egg in it. YUK.

The “good” Mayo.


I have also been killing it in the gym recently. I have always been a gym/fit/love to work out type of person but with 2 kids and Jeremy’s work schedule it’s become really hard to stay consistent. I realize that sounds like an excuse or a cop out and that there tons of parent’s who go to the gym with their kids and put them in the gym daycare, but my kids are already in daycare 9+ hours a day – I cannot imagine picking them up to put them in ANOTHER daycare just so I can work out.  I really hope (with Jeremy’s work schedule) I can keep this up. I made it to the gym 5 times last week and it’s also my goal for this week as well. I am feeling really good with my work out routine and I LOVE incorporating this aspect of my life into the Whole30.


I am allowing myself to weigh-in at the half way point (which you’re NOT supposed to do on the program- but whatever)… which happens to be next Monday and I am really looking forward to it. Maybe it will even be a little motivational push!!!

Happy Whole30 week Two – I am honestly loving this entire challenge and new way of eating and living!!

This week I will leave you with this AMAZING Smoky Bacon Chili Recipe we made for dinner last night!! I tweaked it a bit and we ate it sans Sweet Potato but it was SO delicious I can’t help sharing it.


What I used:

  • 6 slices of bacon, cubed (I didn’t drain the grease, it just added to the flavor in my opinion).
  • 1 garlic clove, minced
  • 1 yellow onion, diced
  • 1 red pepper, diced
  • 1 green pepper, diced
  • Diced Portabella Mushroom Slices (Use as many as desired).
  • 1 small Jalapeno Pepper, diced
  • 1lb ground beef (I used a Beef, Pork and Veal combination).
  • Minced Fresh Cilantro
  • 1 tablespoon garlic powder
  • 1 tablespoon chili powder
  • 2 tablespoons smoked paprika
  • 2 teaspoons cumin
  • 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
  • 2 (14) ounce cans of fire roasted tomatoes
  • 1 (8) ounce can of tomato sauce
  • salt and pepper, to taste

What I did:

  1. I decided to chop all my veggies prior to starting so everything would be ready to go.
  2. In a large stock pot, I add the cubed bacon and let it cook down.
  3. When the bacon finished browning and was a bit crisp, I added the garlic clove and onions. (Do not drain the grease).
  4. I let that cook for a few minutes then added the rest of the veggies one by one.
  5. I let this cook for about 6 or so minutes, then I added the ground beef (I used Beef, Pork and Veal combination meat) and all the spices.
  6. Once the beef is browned, I added the tomato sauce and 2 cans of fire roasted tomatoes (I used more than the original recipe).
  7. I stirred frequently while I brought to a boil while letting all the flavors come together.
  8. I then simmered on low for the next 20 minutes or so, stirring occasionally.

SO GOOD. Seriously SO Good.


The Whole 30 Journey- Part One.

In November 2014 after consuming entirely too many calories and adult beverages for 2 people in a one month time span (and quite frankly feeling sick about it ) not to mention a huge lack of working out due to long work schedules and other nameless excuses, Jeremy and I decided we would start the ever popular but also effective Whole30 Food Program and get our butts back into the GYM!

Not a Resolution but a different way of being!

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We wanted to start the New Year off healthy, get back in the swing of working out full time and we wanted to be devoted to changing our eating habits and lives for the better.  (Side note: I had made a promise to myself on the very last day of vacation this previous summer that I would be in a bikini next season for the first time since having kids (summer of 2010)…. I have a lot of work to do and this seemed like the right place to begin).

I did some initial research and realized that hey, this really wasn’t going to be THAT difficult. Besides not being able to have a glass of wine while cooking dinner, during dinner and several after dinner a few times a week…. we could totally do this right?!?!

All joking aside – the Whole30 Food Plan is essentially not too far off how we grocery shop and cook normally – when we put the effort in, which is realistically 85-90% of the time. What really gets us is the weekends, the random “crap” we snack on, being lazy with boxed/processed side dishes and foods, eating out and take out, and adult beverages.

I personally have NEVER had any desire to do a detox or diet of any kind…. I have always been of the mindset that eliminating certain parts of your diet is unhealthy and not for me. AT all. I was an avid athlete my entire life and saw the effects of different foods on the body and how they are are needed for balanced nutrition. It was something I held on to.

Friends have done these programs as well as other popular options, and I have watched them and never had any desire to join in. Ever. EVEN when it worked!! I am not sure what changed in November but I was on-board – completely ready to go and Jeremy was too!!

We finished 2014 out with our normal day to day – cooking dinner, and bringing breakfast and lunch to work pretty much everyday but as Holiday’s go – there were lots of lunches bought out (which definitely didn’t help our overweight cause) and many weekends where take-out became the go-to.

I got more excited as this all kept happening and it fueled my fire to do this whole thing and get healthy come January.

We set a date: January 5, 2015 to begin which fortunately fell in line with a LARGE amount of our friends and family who were also doing the same thing! Having a big support group is another amazing perk.

Around the middle of December I began planning out our first week of meals. I printed out the download pages of the Whole30 website and got myself organized. The Shopping Lists and tips & tricks were a huge help when making my own lists and creating a meal plan for the week became super easy. Recipes were easy to come across and I found that with slight variations, many of the things we already made on a constant basis would work for the the Whole30.


I am a weirdo and meal plan during the work week for the following week – Friday to Friday (I am sure most people plan Sunday to Sunday right? Or at least Saturday to Saturday and do your shopping on the weekend?). I work from home on Fridays so I do my shopping on Fridays as well as its easy to get out of the house right after work and before I have to pick the kids up from school. (Everyone knows taking 2 toddles to the grocery store alone = ZERO fun). However for this instance, I planned Sunday-Friday for our first week as I knew Jeremy and I would be shopping together as we had a long week at home after the New Year. I also knew we would want to get our “last meals” in that last weekend!!


(Side note: Yes I know the Coconut Milk pictured here has added sugar, we wanted to ease in (although this tastes just as bad) – we also have canned Coconut milk with no additives).

Most of the time I plan dinners which can double as lunch for the next day so we don’t have to worry about two separate meals but occasionally we’ll make something specifically for lunch. This week – everything worked out to take leftovers which was a plus for the first week!

Our first week went as follows: 
Sunday – Chicken Meatballs with Homemade Marinara Sauce (Recipe Below)
Monday – Salads with Grilled Chicken and Homemade Balsamic Dressing
Tuesday – Spaghetti Squash with Sauce (Same that was made on Sunday but I added Ground Turkey meat)
Wednesday – Pulled Pork over Zucchini pasta (Kim and Brian brought this for our weekly dinner date)
Thursday – Steaks with Zucchini and Squash “pasta” and Side Salads.

We prepped hard boiled eggs to take for breakfast at work with bacon as a side. We sliced peppers and celery, and bagged fruit and pistachios for snacks.


We weighed ourselves and took measurements and pictures. (Maybe I will post the before and after in February depending on how well we do – maybe not!)


We had our last meal – Potbelly, and drank our last drinks – A Coke-Zero for me and Rum and Coke for Jer.


We were ready!

Day 1) Daycare Provider has the flu so Mama is home.

Breakfast = change of plans. I kept the eggs and bacon we had prepped in the fridge and whipped up some scrambled eggs with diced peppers, onions and cilantro and added my bacon and I was golden.


I ate the same lunch (left-over Chicken Meatballs with Sauce) that we had planned along with some snacks (a banana and half a handful of Pistachios) and felt great. I was able to leisurely prep the fixings for the Salads for dinner and lunch the next day. (And when I say leisurely – I mean not within 20 minutes of walking through the door from work while also feeding the kids and trying to spend some time with them while knowing that bath and bed are right around the corner).

The salads turned out AWESOME – we did Romaine Lettuce, Tomato, Red Onion, Baby Bella Mushrooms, Cucumber and Homemade Balsamic Dressing…. I sauteed up chicken breast with spices to taste and fresh lemon juice and we were ready… Simple, easy, refreshing and DELISH!!



The gym is also a huge aspect of this Whole30 Program for us as well. I got a Polar Heart Rate Monitor for Christmas and I plan to put this baby to use as much as I can. I used it for the first time on the first day of the Whole30 and LOVED it. What a great way to push myself even harder!!


As for now we’re on the second day and while Jeremy seems to think his insides are eating themselves – they are not – we’re realistically eating the same amount of food that we normally would….  We’re doing pretty good!!!

I plan to post updates, and recipes in the next coming weeks and we’re really hoping to see some good results from this program!!

For now I will leave you with the recipe for the FAMOUS Spicy Chicken Meatballs and Homemade Spaghetti Sauce (one of our favorites – stolen from my SIL Katie!!)

Spicy Chicken Meatballs and Homemade Sauce


For the Meatballs:

2lbs Ground Chicken (we used Organic this time around and hope to continue doing so in the future)
Fresh Garlic (Minced)
Diced Fresh Cilantro
Diced Jalapeno Pepper (I used 1.5 medium sized total for the meatballs and the sauce)
Diced Fresh Parsley
Diced Onion
1 Egg
Normally I would use Bread or Panko crumbs but this week I did not….(I was afraid the meat wouldn’t stick but I think with all the spices it did nicely).
Dried Spices to taste: Crushed Mint, Oregano and Thyme
Salt and Pepper to taste

Mix all ingredients in a bowl thoroughly. Form into meatballs and place in cupcake tin (don’t ask why I do this  – but they cook perfectly this way). Bake for 20-25 minutes (until cooked through) on 350 degree ferinheight.


For the Sauce:

I change this up a bit here and there to cater to our specific taste but this last go around was the best yet!

1 16oz can Organic Diced Tomato
1 16oz can Organic Crushed Tomato
Organic Tomato Paste (about 1/2 a cup).
Organic Tomato Sauce (maybe a little more than 1/2 a cup).
Diced Green Pepper
Diced Portabella Mushroom
Freshly Diced Parsley
Diced Jalapeno Pepper
1 Small Diced Yellow Onion

I used Organic canned tomatoes as I am no farmer and do not have time to can my own (haha joke)…. and you can normally find these with little to no sugar additives at your grocery store.


Saute the Onions and Garlic in a pot on Medium Heat until soft. Add the Green Peppers and Mushrooms and cook 5-7 minutes. Pour in the cans of tomatoes (I usually just dump everything in at once) as well as the Tomato Paste and Sauce.

Add spices and fresh herbs. Bring to a slight boil.

Simmer on medium/medium low for 30 minutes.

Pour over meatballs and ENJOY!


2014 Highlight Reel – As if Facebook isn’t enough of one Already….

Here we are – another year, another million memories we have made, smiles we have given, blessings we are thankful for, losses we still haven’t come to terms with and insurmountable joys we have experienced. Another Holiday season – a time to spend with family, to cheers with friends and remember what is really important.


This year has been a growing and learning year for our family as well as for myself individually.

We came to the final decision that we are 100% done having babies – so our family is really really complete now and Jeremy got TWO promotions at work… yes TWO which has created so many new opportunities for us – we’re even thinking of (more-so determined at this point) to sell our fist home within the next 6 or so months and moving!

Many exciting possibilities on the horizon for the Tipton’s ahead.

Gavin has learned to ride a bike, spell his name and he knows his home address. He can count to 50, identify all his letters and amazes us daily with the stuff that comes out of his mouth – he really is a joy to be around! Makenna has evolved into the sassy little diva Princess we always knew she would be and is obsessed with any fashion accessory available – hats, bows, headbands, shoes and jackets (girl after my own heart) – I am honestly scared to see what the teenage years will bring with this one. She is definitely a feisty little cherub and we have our hands full with her sparky nature and electric personality.

Jeremy and I celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary and we have faced many joys, challenges, frustrations, road blocks, and new found love and happiness in our relationship this year. It’s definitely been a whirlwind and exciting but trying year for us.

We’ve lost friends and celebrated in the saving grace of others. There have been many happy times, and there have been hard times, there have been sad times and there have been great times….. this has been a year of really living and one of changing and evolving.

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Through it all there are ALWAYS things to be thankful for…. this past year has given us quite a few. Here are a couple of our BIG Highlights from 2014!!

Our Highest Highs!

1) Jeremy’s double Promotion!

2) Gavin turns 3. Makenna turns 1.

3) My Best Friend gets married to the love of her life and our whole family gets to take part in the amazing and beautiful festivities!!

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4) We were Blessed BLESSED Blessed with our first God Daughter – Brooklyn Joy!
(Uncle Jeremy needs to get in on the pictures in 2015!!)


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5) Buying our Ford Explorer in August – my DREAM car!

6) Gavin starts and finishes his first season of Soccer!


7) Makenna gets her ears pierced!


8) Mama nurses Makenna until 14 months old – and we NEVER once had to buy formula!! SCORE!


9) I reached the lowest weight I have been since our wedding in 2009! (Now just gotta get back on that workout train!)

10) We celebrated our 5 year Wedding Anniversary!


Songs of the Year!

If you know me, you know I have always been able to tell a story through a song…..

“Words make you think. Music makes you feel. A song makes you feel a thought.” – “I think there is a song out there to describe just about any situation”

There must have been some part of me that wanted to make my mark. But there was never a defining moment – only songs…

My 2014 Jam…. I am not afraid to admit-  I had this sucker on repeat for months. (I cannot say it “spoke to me” per se, but I really just loved jamming out to this constantly).

Another one I listen to over and over and never get sick of.

And we cannot forget…

I also had a love affair with the Taylor Swift 1989 Album this fall.



Eat Drink and Be Merry!

Cause hey, who doesn’t love a good drink and good food???

The Best Meal we made in 2014 – Had to come from Blue Apron (Thanks Eric and Jen for the free meals)!!! Basted Flank Steak with Beet-Freekeh Salad and Gorgonzola – DELICIOUS!


Jeremy also gets a big kick out of my homemade Chicken and Shrimp Fried Rice (not pictured or posted) and my Bacon Wrapped Chicken and Spicy Avocado Cilantro Dipping Sauce (below).


The Worst Meal of 2014 – Jeremy’s “Cajun Shrimp” concoction…. I don’t even have a picture of it, it was that bad. We literally had to “wash off” the shrimp before we ate it and the rice went into the trash. Not his best work in the kitchen.

Some other good eats and drinks from 2014…

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Favorite TV Show of 2014

No Competition. Whatsoever.


Things to be THANKFUL for 2014!!!

~Not everyday is good, but there is good in everyday~

I am so so so thankful for our families health… and for AAMC’s Pediatric Unit and everything they did to make our “stay” that much easier when Makenna needed it most. I cannot say more good things about their Peds unit.

In January 2014 Makenna was taken to the ER twice for RSV and was admitted on the second go around for 2 days and 2 nights. A situation I would rather have not dealt with and terrified us turned out A-Okay as the Doctors and Nurses took the BEST care of our baby girl and got her all better super fast!! What a scary experience though!

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I am thankful for a truly AMAZING daycare provider. She single-handedly makes being a “working mom” that much easier for me. It’s so hard in this day in age to find someone you’re so comfortable leaving your children with whom they also love and adore.

Thank you for everything you do for our kids is not even close to enough to describe how much we treasure you.

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I am beyond thankful for my babies. They save and recreate my life – when I am not even looking. They give my life more meaning than I ever knew could possibly exist.

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I am thankful for my girlfriends – I have 10-20 year friendships. How lucky can a girl get? The same friends for 20 years? I also have brand new best friendships that have formed in the past few years I am forever thankful for as well.

Some old and some new pictures of my “loves”.

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I am thankful for hard work. My husband is the epitome of this. I give him a LOT of crap and a very hard time 90% of the work week but he makes it worth it. (most of the time 😉 ) In all honesty, I have never met someone with a better worth ethic and drive to succeed like he has.

I am also so thankful for Jeremy – just him – and everything he does for me and our children day in and day out.

This year reality really seemed to set in for Jer and I. After 9.5 years, a wedding, buying a house and all of the issues that come along with being homeowners, 2 kids, 2 jobs, unbelievably lonnnnng work hours, finances and a tight budget, and all else that comes from being a young family finding our own way I think we finally hit our first road block (REALITY!) and had to figure out where we went from there.

As we enter a new year I am just so thankful for our commitment to be in this together for the long haul – to make it work… and that we are growing, learning, loving and working together every.single.day to make us and the family we created as happy as we all can be.

“They never said it would be easy – only worth it.”

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I am thankful for this girl and for prayers. I am also so very thankful for her family and that they have become some of our very best friends (practically family)…. They make everyday life a little more fun and exciting.


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I am thankful for Angels in heaven that are watching over us…. I am thankful to have gotten the chance to know this one for as long as I did and to call her my best friend. #imissyousami


I am thankful for the ability to live a summer SALTLIFE and to be able to give our kids these amazing experiences as often as we can.

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I am so thankful for girl time, I am thankful for my sister in law. I have never met someone like her. I have never met someone I could spend SO much time with and still be the best of friends with yet so completely polar opposite of. If girls were soul mates… she would be mine.

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I am thankful for my future sister in law to be. You helped to make my brother a better person and man in a single moment…. you have a special place in my heart. Always.

You open my eyes to new perspectives and for that I owe ya one – its not always easy to see and accept things in a new light. You’ve allowed me to do that.

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I ❤ These girls. #sissys

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I am thankful for our families…. our roots and wings. Our stability.

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“Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

A Few of my Favorite Trending Stories from 2014 that made me laugh, cry, or just made me stop for a moment to realize I am truly not alone in this world – that we’re all on a similar journey (mostly Mom related stuff!).

If there is a Competition over who’s Busiest…. I lose.

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To my Husband Now that I am Mommy

Getting up in the Night is your Wife’s Job

To the Mom with a Toddler and a Baby

I wasn’t Prepared for Motherhood

How to be a Perfect Mother

No You are Not Running Late – You are Rude and Selfish!

A Letter to my Pre-Mom Self

Dear Mom on the iPhone

When You’re Lost in the Baby Fog – The Hardest thing to Find is Eachother

The Deep End of Love

Favorite Quotes from 2004.

“And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.”

“Most of what I say is complete truth. My edit button is broken.”

“They say the grass is always greener on the other side. Try watering your own lawn instead of admiring someone else’s grass.”

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”

“A first child is your own best foot forward, and how you do cheer those little feet as they strike out. You examine every turn of flesh for precocity, and crow it to the world. But the last one: the baby who trails her scent like a flag of surrender through your life when there will be no more coming after–oh, that’ s love by a different name.”

“I don’t care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching–they are your family.”

“(24/7) once you sign on to be a mother, that’s the only shift they offer.”

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

  “You don’t have favourites among your children, but you do have allies.”

“Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well lived.”

“Sometimes in life, you do things you don’t want to. Sometimes you sacrifice, sometimes you compromise. Sometimes you let go and sometimes you fight. It’s all about deciding what’s worth losing and what’s worth keeping.”


What is in Store for 2015 – Plans and Ideas – not Resolutions.

1) Buy a New House – Sell our first home!
2) Whole30 (at least twice) and Back to the Gym more Frequently – 10 pounds has got to go and stay away!
3) A little Lemonade and not so many beers…
4) 4th and 2nd Birthday Parties!!
5) Bikini for Summer – hold me to it people!
6) Tattoo??
8) Big changes and big opportunities…. only time will tell.


Although there are days I simply feel …. that this e-card could not explain my life more at the moment….


It’s been one amazing year!

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Happy 2015!!!


Wine of the Month Club – Husbands Pay Attention!!

If you’re looking for a easy quick gift to add in as a stocking stuffer this year and you have a “wine-o” in your life…. this is a great idea.

Urban Dictionary’s definition of a wine-o (in case you were wondering) – An individual who enjoys drinking wine more than most, this would be the person you ask… “what kind of wine goes best with lamb shanks and sweet peas?”.

It’s no secret…. I am a HUGE wine lover. However, I am not a picky wine snob kinda like my oh so loving hubby. A $5.49 magnum of Vendange will appease me any week while Jeremy chooses the more expensive bottles more often then not.

For Christmas last year Jeremy thought of the most unique gift he’s ever given me – “Wine of the Month Club.” While this may not be a big to do for some, if you knew my husband you would understand why this was a bigger deal for me than most things he gets me. While he’s awesome at picking out clothes, bags and shoes for me, he’s not what you would call “creative” when it comes to gift giving.

He didn’t sign me up for a subscription to a winery where I got a few bottles delivered every month…. he got more creative. He actually made the Certificate himself which was in my stocking on Christmas morning and went out every single month and bought me a new bottle I wouldn’t normally get – a more expensive “nicer” wine – than what I am used to.

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I thought it was such a cute idea and we had so much fun every month having our “special” bottle together.  Sometimes he let me enjoy it alone!



We had whites, we had reds and I actually found a few bottles I would buy again – and did!!



It was such a thoughtful, creative, fun and super easy gift – probably one of my favorites of last Christmas and definitely something you could throw together last minute!!

Why I dont Spank my Kids. 5 Short Reasons.

Controversial topics always make me nervous – hence why I post things like this close to never. There are bound to be people who disagree with me, or take what I have to say personally. This is my disclaimer (yes again); that what I post here is simply what we feel, what we do and what works in our family. It has nothing to do with what I think of you as a parent, your discipline tactics or what works for you and your kids.

I was at the Walmart the other day (yes I know – Walmart?? Why not Target you ask? Walmart???) picking up some new pacifiers for Makenna as we seem to loose those suckers daily and I saw a mom and what I am assuming to be her toddler down the aisle next to me. The toddler, being like any normal child his age was having a bit of a fit and after a few vocal threats the mom just smacked the kid across the face!! It wasn’t a hard blow, it wasn’t physically damaging – but it was enough to get his attention and mine. This baby couldn’t have been more than 2.5. I am not sure who was more shocked  – me, or the mother realizing I was stopped dead in my tracks staring. We both went on our way, with not a word squeezed in edgewise but the entire interaction really got me thinking about the moral compass of this behavior.

Do you think the wack stopped this kid from continuing to throw the temper tantrum? I will let you be the judge on that one.

As I have said, I am not the type to judge how one disciples their children…. your kids, your rules. Witnessing abuse? Yes I would step in and say something but but in all actuality if spanking is how you choose to parent, that’s your business and not mine. I was spanked as a child as I know many of my friends were as well and I am (from what I can tell) no worse for the wear… there is no lasting damage here. However, for some reason this interaction just really got to me – I really just didn’t think this child did anything that warranted being deserving of getting smacked across the face that way. Yes he was crying, screaming and carrying on while Mom was shopping but that’s a reason to just hit him???

With all of the crazy stories of children being hospitalized or even dying from so called “parent disciplining” circulating Social Media and and the news these days it’s hard for me to understand where these people come from, how it gets that bad, how they let it go that far. I am NOT against disciplining your kid. I am not against consequence and learning to take responsibility for your decisions and actions. I am not against being firm and letting your child know when he is in the wrong. I am not sure however where the line is drawn when it comes to actually physically hitting them and when that becomes ok.

Before becoming a parent I was under the assumption that I would spank as a form of discipline – my parents did it, I am fine human being, why not? Jeremy and I had MANY conversations about spanking and discipline and how we wanted to handle these situations leading up to becoming parents for the first time. To say we were originally on the same page would be a lie. However, in the past 3 years and 9 months of being parents I believe we have wandered onto the same common ground.

Reason #1 we don’t spank our kids? We simply don’t have to.

Gavin as a baby and toddler was just an easy kid. He hardly ever acted out or behaved in ways that would warrant discipline let alone spanking. To us, it just became a non-issue. Out of sight out of mind. When he did start throwing tantrums we resorted to other forms of “punishment” – time out, saying sorry, redirecting…. these things worked. These are the same forms of discipline we still use to this day.

Makenna is a bit harder to discipline than Gavin ever was just because of her naturally spunky, inquisitive and testing nature but at the same time our patience has also grown exponentially through the last few years. In many ways  I personally find it easier to deal with my own patience and frustrations now than when Gavin was little.


We continue to grow and learn together and do what works best for us in each situation.

My kids are told “no”, they are told when they are doing something wrong, we take them out of a situation when they are acting out, we raise our voices, we’re hard on them and expect a lot out of them when it comes to acting appropriately. They know there are rules they have to follow and they know when they are doing something they shouldn’t be doing… but we don’t need to hit them to make them understand this. It’s never even crossed my mind to ACTUALLY go through with it. My kids (if I say so myself) are very well behaved and they listen (for the most part) – as much as a 3 and 1 year old can comprehend – well. In short – they are not “little assholes”.

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I believe Jeremy and I have played a part in that. We teach them how to behave and what is acceptable and what is not in different situations from very early on.

Firm tones and following through works wonders people. You don’t have to be “old school” to be effective and for kids to know what is right and wrong.

Reason #2 we don’t spank our kids – It’s hypocritical. In all reality I believe spanking is 95% the parents own personal “issue” – You don’t spank because the child is being “bad” you spank because you cannot control the behavior.

The child acts out, the parent tries other forms of discipline – it doesn’t work, parent get frustrated, looses their cool and wack. It begins.

Spanking in my eyes, is the parent resorting to lashing out. Essentially the same thing your “punishing” your kids for. It’s a last ditch effort, in most cases to get your kid to listen and to behave.

But what does this actually TEACH your kid? That it’s OK to hit?

It doesn’t correct the behavior ultimately – they are still going to do it (maybe even when your not looking – trust me I know from experience) and you’re only scaring your child into doing what you want them to – you’re conditioning your child to fear you by hitting them. How is that creating a good lasting impression or relationship with your child?

I have no problems with my kids FEARING me. I am not here to be their friend, I am their mother (wait, lightening is about to strike. I sound so much like my own mom it’s scary). I do however, have a problem with them thinking they can’t come to me when they have done something wrong for fear of me physically hurting them.


Whenever I feel myself losing my cool during one of Gavin’s “crazed lunatic spawn of Satan” moments (and yes he does have them from time to time and yes I do lose my cool), I always give myself a few moments to collect myself before actually dealing with him. Then I can calmly discipline in a way in which he will truly get something out of. If I find myself loosing my cool, I am lucky that Jeremy can step in and take over and vice versa. We have learned to pick up on one another’s cues for when the other needs a break (or our own time out).

Which leads me to #3 Reason we don’t spank our kids – I personally don’t trust myself to leave my anger and frustration out of spanking, also it becomes habit forming… and then what happens once the spanking doesn’t work?

I am sure there are plenty of people who can spank in a disciplinary way and that is all there is to it. Not me. I get emotionally involved in my children’s lives, I can get angry with them and frustrated and I sometimes let my emotions get the best of me. There have been times I feel myself losing my cool – they press my nerves and I feel myself wanting to lash out at them.

I don’t want to take MY angry frustrations that my child is not listening or obeying me out on them. Yes, they are the ones who are are misbehaving but it’s MY responsibility to reign them in to discipline efficiently and to keep MY cool… I don’t need to hit to accomplish this. I have done it for 3 years and 9 months… we can continue to find ways to make them hear us.

If I do it once, who’s to say I won’t do it again, and again…. and again. I don’t want to be that person that has to threaten my kid with hitting to make them listen to me because it’s worked in the past.

I know there is a difference between spanking to discipline and actual abuse – but as I have said before, I not sure where that line is drawn and staying away from it completely is working for now.

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#4 Reason we don’t spank – I honestly believe it is my JOB as my child’s parent to find ways to teach them to listen and behave as they are expected.

You teach your children that when someone acts out in a social situation or at school they are not supposed to use violence to get what they want…. yet you’re doing the same thing.

As they grow older and gain more responsibility for their actions I am sure we will be coming up with new and more age appropriate discipline tactics However, it is still OUR responsibility to keep calm and in line – we’re the adults. If I have to hit my child to accomplish that – I am doing something wrong. Period.

If redirection doesn’t work, we try something else. If time out isn’t solving the issue maybe they lose a privilege. There is always some way to get around it.

Reason #5 we don’t spank our kids – I believe in teaching my children by modeling the behavior I expect them to exhibit.

Monkey see – Monkey do. End of Story.


I know that not everything I do as a person and as a parent teaches and models exemplary behavior. We all have our downfalls and shortcomings and I cannot be perfect – I am not perfect in anyway. I always thought before kids that I WOULD spank… that is until I got pregnant and actually had a baby. Then I could not imagine actually going through with it.

I just don’t want to start and by creating disciplinary tactics that we find work for our family at this point, we don’t have to.

We all raise healthy happy thriving kids in different ways – this is just one of those things that works for us.

We’re told all the time how “good” our kids are when they are in other people’s care…. we’re told how polite and respectful Gavin is all the time. Until we’re told differently I think what we’re doing is working 🙂